The dance that takes place within dating app direct messages is a delicate one. You want to be forward without coming on too strong or scaring someone off.
Swiping etiquette, timing, first messages, red flags, date planning, cutting off liars and time-wasters are just some of the many variables that come into play.
1. Don’t get angry
Some people will get upset when they’re ignored, and some may even start to believe that it’s because of something they did or didn’t do. However, this is not necessarily the case. It could be that they simply are not interested in you or that they have other things going on in their life that make them unable to talk.
Getting angry is not likely to help the situation. In fact, it can backfire and actually make the person you’re upset with feel worse. Instead, try to understand why they’re ignoring you and move on.
Similarly, don’t start bombarding them with messages or calling them. This can come off as insecure or possessive and will most likely make them ignore you even more. Instead, try to be patient and wait for them to reach out to you again on their own terms.
2. Don’t ask why
If someone doesn’t respond to messages, it could mean that they have decided not to date you. This is a sad truth, but it’s important to remember that you deserve someone who actually wants to be in your life.
It’s tempting to text someone a lot and ask why they’re ignoring you, but this can be confusing for them and might annoy them. Additionally, overdoing the compliments may come across as desperate or creepy.
If you’re still interested in the person, try gently asking if they are ignoring you because of something else and see what happens. Otherwise, it might be time to let them go and move on. Good luck! The internet is a big place, and there are plenty of other guys out there who will be excited to meet you.
3. Don’t try to fix it
There’s no need to bombard a potential match with messages. Sending someone multiple messages can actually be a turn-off. Instead, make one well thought-out message that is direct and polite and move on if you don’t get the response you want.
Some girls become overly dramatic when they are ignored by a guy and assume that it is because of their appearance, height or other flaws in their profile. They may even try to ignore the guy back to see if they can get him to notice them.
Mind games can be fun and playful, but they can also backfire if you are not careful. If you are going to ignore someone, make sure that it is purposeful and that they are a girl who matters to you.
4. Don’t push him away
It’s not uncommon for someone to get dozens of likes, matches and messages in one day on dating apps. However, not everyone is interested in all of them. They may have their preferences and deal-breakers (such as height, religion or political affiliation) set to only receive messages from people they are interested in.
If you’re the one that’s not being matched up with and sent messages, it can feel like they are ignoring you. This could be because he is interested in you or because he thinks you’re not the right match for him.
Either way, it can take a toll on your mental and emotional health. That’s why it is important to practice self-care and seek support if needed. You can also reduce the stress you’re feeling by avoiding excessive time on dating apps altogether.
5. Don’t give up
Getting ignored on dating apps isn’t always a bad thing. It could mean that he lost interest, or his phone might’ve glitched and sent the same text to someone else. If this happens more than once, it might be time to cut your losses and move on.
But if you’re not sure if it’s a ghosting or just a case of losing interest, then don’t give up! You can still try to make her chase you. Just be careful not to come off as too aloof or disinterested. If she thinks you’re not interested, then she will move on to someone who is.